Love

Six conversations about money you should have before getting married

Planning the life you'll have together takes a lot more than looking at your bank accounts. Here's how to get started.

Aug 18 • Heather and Douglas Boneparth

What belongs on your "real-life" registry?

A smarter gift guide to building more than just a beautiful kitchen.

Jul 28 • Heather and Douglas Boneparth

How dare you change without my permission?

What happens when someone we care about becomes a new person.

Jul 8 • Heather and Douglas Boneparth

Turn down the heat before everything burns

This is the third Above Our Pay Grade, feat. couples therapist Dr. Marina Rosenthal.

Apr 28 • Heather and Douglas Boneparth

People said I should read Strangers. I saw our book on every page.

Belle Burden’s memoir illustrates what can happen when you stop asking questions about your money, your spouse, and yourself.

Apr 8 • Heather and Douglas Boneparth

I had $200,000 in student loan debt. He said, "What's yours is mine."

Some thoughts on romantic gestures this Valentine's Day.

Feb 14 • Heather and Douglas Boneparth

Prenups, power, and the convos couples avoid

Welcome to Above Our Pay Grade, feat. matrimonial attorney Jackie Combs

Feb 3 • Heather and Douglas Boneparth

Progress is the point

How to measure our goals when life has other plans.

Jan 13 • Heather and Douglas Boneparth

We promise, you’re not fighting about gifts

Our holiday feelings are deeper than a price tag, so let’s unwrap them.

Dec 3, 2025 • Heather and Douglas Boneparth

Gratitude's the attitude

How to frame your year together around what's gone right.

Nov 25, 2025 • Heather and Douglas Boneparth

Big Birthday Energy

40 lessons about life, love, and money that belong on a bumper sticker, mug, or tote bag

Aug 5, 2025 • Heather and Douglas Boneparth

Q&A: Don't I need to know more about my husband's business?

A new reader question on The Joint Account.

Jul 16, 2025 • Heather and Douglas Boneparth

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